I live in USA with my beautiful 2 year old girl and my husband. I work as a consultant in IT industry and my husband works as a full time employee. Till now, me, my husband were in good terms and I had no issues to bother.
Times have changed when I became pregnant few months back and I got to know its a baby girl. And my husband was like AGAIN ? My in-laws were furious at me. I don't know why ? I even offered them that I will get aborted if they don't like baby girl again. They did not let me choose to abort and they are not happy with the baby girl again.
I talked to my husband and he says he is not happy with a girl and at the same time he poses infront of the people as though he is alright with it. All my friends say that your husband is so happy for the to-be-born baby girl. But, unfortunately I am not in a position to let my fear and frustration out to them. My husband and in-laws say that I am unlucky for them and not able to given them the "family heir". Am I the one supposed to be blamed for ? What can I do ?
I was supposed to go to India for few months before my pregnancy and now my husband says, "what's the need to go there". You only want to spend on your travel and your unborn girl child. You can at least stay here and save those expenses. If you want, call your parents here and do a job.
Instead of feeling good about my pregnancy and 2 year old, I feel bad that I am a woman now. I thought my husband is well educated and he would understand. But now I know that the education has nothing to with one's behavior and values. I feel terrible day-by-day and i want to let my frustration out some way or the other...
Any Suggestion is most welcome...
Living abroad if they can be
Living abroad if they can be so narrow minded with backward thinking, there is no immediate solution for your problem. Only you should be able to help yourself and prepare for future. Think of how all have been so far and think about current situation and than predict future outcome. What if 3rd time also you will have girl? what will your family think than?
Best ways to try is talk to your friends or elders from family friends, tell them about problem and have them find a way to indirectly educate your in-laws/husband on this. On side note, if you working, do save some just for future of your girls. hope for best.
Oh! That's really sad! And
Oh! That's really sad!
And you're right! There's hardly any connection of education with understanding, values, and open-minded thinking.