Don't get thrown off by the title of the post...It isn't about Raveena Tandon..the forgotten Bollywood Actress...Its about A-la Maid or Au-pair.
If you still haven't figured it out, let me elaborate. Its about Maids and Domestic Helpers in India (Calling them servants is considered politically incorrect in today's world).
I have had a love hate relationship with this breed since I took the reins of running our household. Thankfully I never had to deal with them immediately after my marriage since MIL was handling that headache.
Better Half (BH) was being transferred and promoted with precision every year and so I like a dutiful wife followed him to the corners of India. This brought me in contact with the domestic worker breed from various places. Even if the language and custom changes with every area the personality of this breed remains constant wherever you will go.
They are people you cant live without. They are a topic of discussion between womenfriends and neighbours and are ranked even higher than all other favourite topics like Rising costs, gossiping about relatives and many such others.. In todays world we can't live without them...
I had my share of good, bad and ugly kinds with some languising in the non commentable category since my communication with them lasted in Monosyllables.
The good ones made my life very easy...I had one maid in Baroda who arrived so precisely at 6.30 am each day that I never had to set my alarm, she was quick with her work and polite with her tongue and someone whom I will always remember.
Another good one was named Lata in Pune..she became more of a friend than a maid...her sheer grit and determination of bringing up 2 young children single handedly whilst hiding from her drunkard husband who frequently beat her up really made me respect her a lot. She could speak broken english and her honesty was always admired by many people she worked for.
As always the list of bad and ugly is longer. Falling into that category is a maid who lived with me. Her parents were nice people and so looking at them I hired her. She cooked really well and worked hard...but her only drawback was that she fell into wrong company of other maids and got carried away. And a couple of others I had to give the boot just because I got suspicious after my house got burgled twice and I lost quite a few of my prized possessions.
With our life becoming faster and with more and more women joining the workforce, the domestic help has become one of our most valuable asset at home. Most of us beg, cajole and even revert to emotional blackmail with them to keep our work life balance. They are an anchor of sanity at home when we are rushing off to our jobs and careers.
Here in UK, the concept of domestic helper is no longer viable option in terms of cost. Also with people friendly gadgets who do most of the work, this breed which actually was much in demand in earlier times has become nearly extinct.
Inspite of my good and bitter experiences with them I am glad I do not have to depend on them now. Life is much more simpler and with life not so rushed as in India, the domestic chores are a minor blip on my radar.









Housewives in India are so
Housewives in India are so lazy, even if they have 100 gadgets infront of them, they'll prefer to have 3 maids run those gadgets! So no chance of those "maids" losing their jobs!
I don't think its laziness at
I don't think its laziness at all....its good that more people are employed because of this. I think infact its better.
Well,the way how Indians
Well,the way how Indians (residing in India) depends on maids is just hilarious.On an average each household has 2to3 maids doing everything that is needed.I don't think the maids are underpaid anymore.
The mantra is 'if you can
The mantra is 'if you can afford to pay then why not keep them'. In one way its good too...so many people are employed and can earn a livlihood.Thanks :)
Maid in India
I'm not sure about the point of this post. I think it is unfortunate that we think of maids the way we do as Indians. There are a few things that never gets discussed when talking about maids - the story of feudal India and the story of the maid in this feudal India. I am not sure if replacing maids with gadgets is necessarily good - because it does provide employment to a segment of the Indian population that would otherwise starve. But the invisibility of the maid's life despite her ubiquitous and significant presence in our lives, we owe to our feudal culture that is so much a part our everyday cultural existence. I think it is time we start talking about what we owe to our maids (a decent pay and benefits and recognition as human beings) than what they owe us (unfaltering loyalty and mulish labor).
hmmm
The point of this post was not to undermine the efforts of the maid...Please look at the title of the post...its says it all.
Plus the post was not aimed at encouraging people to illtreat the maid but was just an observation of my experiences with different maids and how I am now relieved that I don't have to deal with them anymore.Thanks for your comment.
A good article!
A good article!
Thanks :)
Thanks :)
Truly agree with your content
Truly agree with your content ..:)..
Having a maid is like entering in to a vicious circle..
True and the headache of
True and the headache of giving direction and keeping a watchful eye are additional chores for us.
LOL! Really people are so
LOL! Really people are so lost without the "maids" in India. I totally agree a maid free life is like a bliss!
A good post!
yep
Don't have to wait anymore for her and wonder if she is going to come to work today or not. Thanks for your comment.